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Who are toxic parents? The Inadequate Parents: Constantly focusing on their own problems, they turn their children into Author: Susan Forward with Craig Buck. DOWNLOAD PDF. The Alcoholics: Mired in denial and chaotic mood swings, their addiction leaves little time or energy for the demands of parenthood.
The Verbal Abusers: Whether overtly abusive or subtly sarcastic, they demoralize their children with constant put-downs and rob them of their self-confidence. The Physical Abusers: Incapable of controlling their own deep-seated rage, they often blame their children for their own ungovernable behavior.
The Sexual Abusers: Whether agrantly sexual or covertly seductive, they are the ultimate betrayers, destroying the very heart of childhood—its innocence. YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME FOR WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU AS A CHILD—BUT YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT NOW! Other Books by This Author Other Books by This Author Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them Obsessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You Money Demons Betrayal of Innocence: Incest and Its Devastation For my children Acknowledgments Many people made significant contributions to this work: Craig Buck, a dedicated and talented writer, gave form to the story I wanted to tell.
Nina Miller, toxic parents susan forward pdf free download, M. She is also the most loyal friend anyone could have. Marty Farash, M. My wonderful editor, Toni Burbank, toxic parents susan forward pdf free download, was, as always, insightful, sensitive, and understanding, toxic parents susan forward pdf free download. Linda Grey, President and Publisher of Bantam Books who believed in me and my work from the beginning.
My gratitude is endless to the clients, friends, and others who trusted me with their most intimate feelings and secrets so that other people could be helped. I cannot name them, but they know who they are.
My children, Wendy and Matt, and my friends—especially Dorris Gathrid, toxic parents susan forward pdf free download, Don Weisberg, Jeanne Phillips, Basil Anderman, Lynn Fischer, and Madeline Cain—are my personal rooting section, and I love them all dearly. My stepfather, Ken Peterson, for his encouragement and many kindnesses to me. And nally, I want to thank my mother, Harriet Peterson, for her love and support and for having the courage to change.
Contents Introduction PART 1. TOXIC PARENTS 1. Godlike Parents —The Myth of the Perfect Parent 2. The Bruises Are All on the Inside —The Verbal Abusers 6. Sometimes the Bruises Are on the Outside, Too —The Physical Abusers 7. The Ultimate Betrayal —The Sexual Abusers 8. Why Do Parents Behave This Way? The Beginnings of Self-Definition Confrontation: The Road to Independence Healing the Incest Wound Breaking the Cycle Epilogue—Letting Go of the Struggle Suggested Reading Excerpt from Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them Introduction Sure, my father used to hit me, but he only did it to keep me in line.
She was frightened by his sudden outbursts and worn down by his relentless criticism. Gordon knew he had a hot temper and that he could be a nag, but still he was shocked when his wife walked out. I asked Gordon to tell me about himself and guided him with a few questions as he talked. I asked him what his relationship with his father was like now.
He laughed nervously and said: It was great … until I told him I was thinking about going into holistic medicine, toxic parents susan forward pdf free download. It really got bad yesterday.
He got upset and told me I should forget I was ever a part of his family. That really hurt. While Gordon was describing his father, who was obviously not as wonderful as Gordon would have liked me to believe, I noticed that he began to clasp and unclasp his hands in a very agitated way.
When toxic parents susan forward pdf free download caught himself doing this, he restrained himself by placing his ngertips together in the way that professors often do at their desks.
It seemed a gesture he might have picked up from his father. I asked Gordon whether his father had always been so tyrannical. No, not really. I mean, he yelled and screamed a lot, and I got spanked once in a while, like any other kid. Something about the way he said the word spanked, some subtle emotional change in his voice, struck me.
I asked him about it. I asked Gordon how badly his father had physically hurt him. I mean, I turned out okay. He just needed to keep me in line. Gordon avoided my eyes. This was making him extremely uncomfortable.
I pulled my chair closer and continued gently: Your wife is a pediatrician. His eyes lled with tears at the realization. Though he was in terrible emotional pain, he had uncovered, for the rst time, the primary, long-hidden source of his temper. He had been containing a volcano of anger against his father since childhood, and toxic parents susan forward pdf free download the pressure got too great, he would erupt at whoever was handy, usually his wife.
I knew what we had to do: acknowledge and heal the battered little boy inside of him. When I got home that evening, I found myself still thinking about Gordon. I kept seeing his eyes ll with tears as he realized how he had been mistreated. I thought about the thousands of adult men and women with whom I had worked whose daily lives were being in uenced—even controlled—by patterns set during childhood by emotionally destructive parents.
Why Look Back? Like Gordon, few of these people made the connection between their parents and their problems. This is a common emotional blind spot. People simply have trouble seeing that their relationship with their parents has a major impact on their lives. I am a great believer in short-term therapy that focuses on changing destructive behavior patterns. But my experience has taught me that it is not enough to treat the symptoms; you must also deal with the sources of those symptoms. Therapy is most e ective when it proceeds down a double track: both changing current self-defeating behavior and disconnecting from the traumas of the past.
Gordon had to learn techniques to control his anger, but in order to make permanent changes, ones that would stand up under stress, he also had to go back and deal with the pain of his childhood. Our parents plant mental and emotional seeds in us—seeds that grow as we do. In some families, these are seeds of love, respect, and independence. But in many others, they are seeds of fear, obligation, or guilt. If you belong to this second group, this book is for you.
As you grew into adulthood, toxic parents susan forward pdf free download, these seeds grew into invisible weeds that invaded your life in ways you never dreamed of.
Their tendrils may have harmed your relationships, your career, or toxic parents susan forward pdf free download family; they have certainly undermined your self-confidence and self-esteem. What Is a Toxic Parent? All parents are de cient from time to time. I made some terrible mistakes with my children, which caused them and me considerable pain.
No parent can be emotionally available all the time. All parents occasionally become too controlling. And most parents spank their children, even if rarely. Do these lapses make them cruel or unsuitable parents?
Of course not. Parents are only human, and have plenty of problems of their toxic parents susan forward pdf free download. And most children can deal with an occasional outburst of anger as long as they have plenty of love and understanding to counter it.
These are the parents who do the harm. As I searched for a phrase to describe the common ground that these harmful parents share, the word that kept running through my mind was toxic. What better word than toxic to describe parents who in ict ongoing trauma, abuse, and denigration on their children, and in most cases continue to do so even after their children are grown? Sexual or physical abuse can be so traumatic that often a single occurrence is enough to cause tremendous emotional damage.
Unfortunately, parenting, one of our most crucial skills, is still very much toxic parents susan forward pdf free download seat-of-the-pants endeavor. Our parents learned it primarily from people who may not have done such a good job: their parents. WHAT DO TOXIC PARENTS DO TO YOU? Whether adult children of toxic parents were beaten when little or left alone too much, sexually abused or treated like fools, overprotected or overburdened by guilt, they almost all su er surprisingly similar symptoms: damaged self-esteem, leading to self-destructive behavior.
In one way or another, they almost all feel worthless, unlovable, and inadequate. When these children become adults, they continue to bear these burdens of guilt and inadequacy, making it extremely di cult for them to develop a positive self-image.
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